Despite my jovial, “Hey how are you doll…?” outer exterior, I am actually a shy person who sometimes would rather sit in a corner alone rather than face not being wanted. Like Morris Day said, “Ain’t nothing worse than rejection” ,so sometimes it is easier to go it alone. Few people really know this about me, or would believe me if I say it, but it is my truth.
However as a budding business owner, that behavior is definitely a minus. So I took a moment and sat in quietness listening for an answer. And something so obvious, yet obviously neglected by me dropped into my spirit and it was this. If you have to choose to take action and what you would lose by not doing it is less than you would gain by doing it…GO FOR IT! Everytime! GO FOR IT!
My fear of whatever I had imagined had kept me from doing things, and taking chances and risks that could have helped me. Because even mistakes can help you grow. But this “aha” gave me the courage to plan a Winter Launch Party for my company. And although to many, this ma seem like a small thing, for me it was huge for me. I labored over every detail and weighed decisions to make sure my event was a success. Reached out to friends for help and encouragement, and set my eyes on a goal. When that day for the event came I went into it with a clear and concise definition of what a successful event would entail. And i set out to have an awesome launch. AND I DID! The event was successful, and I had a ball. I got to do what I love and show others what I am passionate about.
And what I realized is this. People who love you and “get it” will support you. But you have to put yourself out there in a way that people can “show up” for you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Don’t be afraid to act. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Don’t be afraid to try. Because in that trying you fortify all future tries.